The Ultimate Blowjob Guide: How To Give A Perfect BJ

Receiving a blowjob is one of the most cherished parts of any sexual relationship. It’s so simple, but it also requires a lot of practice and attention.

When you give a good blowjob, your partner will be barely able to hide their pleasure. It’s something that can be amazing from start to explosive finish.

All guys have their preferences for blowjobs. Some like them to be more aggressive with lots of tooth action, but others prefer something slower and smoother.

Whatever is the case for your man, you want your BJ to bring them to another level of pleasure. Providing great blowjobs can make you feel all the better about your sexual prowess.

We’ve made this guide to give you all the essential information you need about how to give the best blowjob.

1. Comfort

You and your partner need to both feel comfortable for a blowjob to be successful. As good as your mouth on his cock feels, the experience is going to be lessened if you’re in a stiff and awkward position.

You can also prolong your session when you’re both more comfortable. This will let your partner have a more satisfying cum.

The best place to start is by picking a pose that doesn’t require constant readjustment. While you might decide to initially go for a kneeling position while he’s sitting, lying down can also be a good plan.

Consider his preferences as well. Some guys relish the dominant feeling that comes with receiving a blowjob. In this case, he’d probably prefer you to be kneeling while he sits.

However, some guys like to be dominated, and there are ways you can achieve this while still blowing him. If you have any restraints, such as rope, try to get him bound.

His penis shape and formation is also essential. You want to position yourselves in a way that allows for easy access.

2. Slow Progression

Your man is definitely going to be excited, but you should still exercise some control instead of just diving into it. Arousal should be built up.

Start with more innocuous actions, such as kissing on him and taking his clothes off. Let him feel yourself on him and talk about how much you want to taste him.

When it’s time to get to his genitals, don’t start slobbering on his cock right away. Tease his penis and testicles with small licks and gentle caressing.

When he’s reached his erection peak, with pre-cum dripping and plenty of veins, you can get your mouth over it.

Go down on it slowly and work to unlock a pattern that works for both of you. Bob up and down on that cock like the delicious object it is.

Don’t be afraid to bring your hands into it as well. You can do some strokes on his cock when your mouth needs a break and touch him elsewhere. Ask him to rub your tits or stroke your ass as well.

3. Be Excited

Just getting a blowjob isn’t enough for it to be a good experience for guys. The person giving it also needs to be into it.

You might be someone who loves giving blowjobs, but who feels a little weird about showing enthusiasm. Forget about playing it cool and just show how much you adore his cock and being able to taste it. He’ll be getting so turned on.

During the blowjob, use different forms of expression to show him how much you love the experience. Look him in the eyes, guide his hand to your nipples as they get hard or your vagina as it gets wet.

Knowing that you’re really feeling something from sucking him off can get him even more turned on. You might also take cues from some of his favorite blowjob videos for ideas of what he’d like.

4. Proper Teasing

Not going too fast into a blowjob can be better for both you and him. Edging is a hidden talent of many blowjob-givers.

Take your partner as close to orgasm as you can, then stop for a moment before trying something else. They’ll know they need to control themselves to really have a good cum.

When it’s time to let their load out, they’ll be gushing, and your mouth will be the perfect vessel for their cum.

Edging also allows for a nice role reversal. Even if they’re the one getting the pleasure, you’re still able to show you’re in control.

He might tell you when he’s close to cumming, but there are other ways to tell this. Notice how he twitches and the noises he makes.

Once it seems like he’s going to let go, do something different. Keep the arousal going by doing things like rubbing his nipples or kissing his balls.

When you’re ready for him to cum, work your mouth on his cock and let him bust inside.

5. Erogenous Zone Importance

The erogenous zones are areas that are super-sensitive and can create heightened arousal. Touching these areas while sucking his cock can make the blowjob incredible.

Below are five places you should work during a blowjob.

Scrotum: This might be pretty obvious, but the ball sack is incredibly sensitive. Touching or kissing on it during a blowjob is easy to do.

Anus: Try to get a lubed-up finger inside his ass while you’re sucking him. If you reach his prostate, you could give him the best orgasm he’s ever received without making him ejaculate.

Sacrum: A triangle-shaped bone on the lower back, the sacrum has nerve endings linked to genitalia. In short, you can make him feel good down there if you work this bone.

Gluteal fold: At the cross-section of thigh and ass, this area can really make him aroused if worked properly.

Perineum: Also known as the taint, this is between the balls and the ass. Give some attention to the perineum by massaging it as you suck his cock.

6. Communication

Sex would be so much easier if we could read each other’s minds. However, until telepathy becomes a real thing, we have to rely on communication.

Tell your partner that you’d like for him to tell you when he wants you to change things up or continue with something.

He might feel reluctant to verbalize this, so you can have him do things like specific hand signals or touches.

Remember, too that him nixing something isn’t meant to make you feel bad. He knows his penis better than anyone and is, therefore, the best authority for what to do with it.

However, with enough practice, you’ll become a valued expert on his member.

7. Use Your Hands

A blowjob doesn’t just have to involve the mouth. Your hands are powerful pieces of equipment and can make his blowjob a lot more exciting.

Using your hands first can help him get turn on and hard. Using lube can definitely help get him loosened up.

During the blowjob, bring your hands out from time to time. This can really help keep you from getting exhausted while still pleasuring him.

You might make this an equal whole act. We doubt you can find many guys who wouldn’t salivate at that possibility.

It doesn’t need to be limited to his genitals. You can run your hands through his hair or massage his chest.

Furthermore, you can treat yourself. Seeing you rub your nipples or massage your clit can be a delight for him.

Another plus is that if you’re averse to the taste of cum, you can opt for a handjob to conclude things.

7. Variety 

A blowjob shouldn’t be just sucking in one constant motion. Unless your man has been so starved of touch for so long that anything will make him cum, he’s not going to be satisfied.

It also shows that you’re not all that involved. Otherwise, you’d be doing all you can to make things exciting.

A boring blowjob also makes things harder for you, because you’re not letting yourself get turned on as much as you could be. Work with different parts of your body. Anything you can get on his cock should be used.

Try different combinations to keep him on his toes. You want to be so good that you make him reluctant to cum because of how much he’s enjoying getting his cock worked.

As always, you need to pay attention to his signals and what he says. Don’t try to go too hard or do anything too extreme just because you think it might be what he likes.

Try to pace yourself as much as you can. Nobody should expect you to be some kind of blowjob wizard that can suck for 20 minutes at a time without taking a breath. Your man should want you to take a break every now and then as well.

You can still do stuff to him while not going too hard. The frenulum, the meeting point between shaft and cock head, is great to tease in between sucking.

Make some noises yourself as you’re sucking. This will let him know that you’re really enjoying yourself and make him hornier.

Flatten your tongue and go up and down his cock with it. This lets you really notice the different flavors of his cock.

Get your mouth all over his cock and let go. Put as much spit on his cock as you can and go again. Put your hands to work here as well.

You can also suck him without working his entire cock. Put your mouth just around the tip and frenulum. Stimulate the balls and perineum. When you’re ready to go all the way down on his cock, you’ll both be glad you teased him like this.

Should you have the endurance and confidence to deep throat his cock, give it a shot. You can have him yelling “I love you,” the moment he’s fully inside you.

Constrict his penis with your hand like it’s a stress ball, then start sucking the tip. He might be left speechless even after he cums.

Titty-fucking is something guys love. Get your breasts around his cock and show him the friction pleasure of your beautiful tits.

Take your mouth off his cock and go for a handjob. As you’re doing this, taste his balls, sucking on his sack and each testicle.

8. Use Toys

You should definitely include toys to enhance the BJ experience. There are things you can use specifically to make him enjoy his blowjob more.

1. Lubrication

Sometimes, you might not be able to summon the spit you need for a blowjob. When this happens, you need to get a good lube on his cock.

However, you probably don’t want to taste some unpleasant lube as you’re blowing him. Luckily, there are lubes with different flavors, such as peach. You might even forget that you’re tasting a penis.

2. Vibrators

Work a vibrator on your man’s cock while you’re blowing him. This will be an additional sensation to drive him crazy.

It can also help keep you from getting exhausted. The vibrator can do a lot with minimal effort on your spot.

It doesn’t need to just go on his penis or testicles. Put it on erogenous zones, and anywhere he asks you to.

A well-timed vibration can turn your blowjob into something of legend.

3. Dildos

Dildos aren’t just for women. Men should use them if they want to realize the power of anal play and prostate orgasms.

Put a dildo that’s safe for anal play inside his ass and try to get to his prostate. There are many prostate massagers on the market, and he might have one in his hiding spots.


4. Machines


Blowjob machines are hands free, so you won't have to do any of the work.


But this is a win win situation for you and your man. You get satisfaction by seeing him explode and you don't have to do anything. 


This can be a great addition to your sex life since you can get a break from giving him head.


You may have never heard of these type of machines before, so check out our BJ machine guide here


9. End Things Powerfully

A blowjob isn’t just about the orgasm, but that’s not a part that should be treated indifferently.

When you know he’s on the verge of cumming, go a little harder. Up the pleasure levels and show that you’re eager for him to spray his load into your wanting mouth.

Just because he’s cumming doesn’t mean you should stop. Having you suck after he’s cum means he’ll get even more pleasure.

You can definitely slow down a bit. Consider it as the difference between slamming on the brakes and gently pressing the brake pedal.

A difficulty when sucking cock is deciding whether or not to swallowing his cum. Some love it and consider it an essential part of the blowjob experience.

However, others want to get the taste of semen out of them as soon as possible. They also may not want it to be anywhere near their mouth.

If this describes you, you might try taking your mouth off just as he’s about to cum and have him cum on your hand. Other great areas for him to cum on include your breasts and ass.

Letting him cum in your mouth but discarding of it can be a good compromise. Don’t spit it out like a wad of gum. Let it drip out gradually as you show him what your combined efforts have resulted in.

Don't Do This During Blowjobs

Giving a blowjob is very straightforward, and you might think that there’s no way to do it poorly. However, there are common issues that givers can commit without realizing they’re problems.

1. Using Teeth

The feeling of teeth on a penis isn’t as pleasurable as you might think. Though some guys like it, others find even a slight scraping to be enough to take them out of the mood. Ask him before if he wants you to use your teeth on him.

Should you have trouble not using your teeth, adjust your mouth so they’re not in the way. Going slowly and paying attention to what’s touching his penis will also help.

2. Excessive Gagging

You might’ve seen this depicted in porn a lot, but it’s not necessarily the norm in terms of typical blowjobs.

A couple of gagging sounds can be a nice turn on, but don’t think you need to asphyxiate yourself on his cock to turn him on.

You might inadvertently start gagging because you’re pushing yourself further than it is safe to. Your mouth might not be able to fit his giant cock inside.

The gag reflex is also prone to kick in. To prevent this from ruining your ability to please him, get yourself in a position that allows the throat and mouth to be kept generally together. A cool trick is to lay down while he’s standing.

Finally, you should keep plenty of oxygen flowing through your nose, as your mouth will be harder to breathe through.

3. Being Disgusted

If you’re giving a guy a blowjob, you’re giving the signal that you’re turned on by the experience, or that you aren’t disgusted by it.

There might be times when you’re not as much into the guy or his cock, but that doesn’t give you any right to be rude about it.

If there’s something that must be resolved, such as a bad odor or something that makes you feel unsafe about going down on him, let him know.

Otherwise, keep your comments to yourself and focus on bringing him pleasure.

4. Unapproved Ass Play

While we stand by our advocacy of prostate play, consent is always the most important thing in the bedroom.

Sticking your finger inside your partner’s ass while you’re blowing them is something that should be decided before you do so.

Determine too if he wants you to put it in whenever you feel the urge or if he wants you to give him notice up to the very last second.

Touching on his asscheeks can be a good segue into putting your finger inside his anus.

5. Not Involving Him

Your partner should appreciate all the effort you’re putting forth with the blowjob, but you shouldn’t ignore the other parts of him.

Have a conversation, and invite him to feel all around you. This shouldn't just be you pleasing him. It should be both of you pleasing each other.

Final Thoughts

Blowjobs used to have a reputation for being dirty. But we don’t see any reason to call anything that involves people showing affection towards each other “dirty.”

Blowjobs can be romantic or raunchy. They’re empowering for both the giver and receiver. When he finally cums, you can smile, knowing that you've played such an essential part in him being able to receive satisfaction.

Plus, lots of men will tell you how they enjoy blowjobs most of all. It can be a lot more relaxing than intercourse, and the giver's ability to work their tongue means things can be varied.

Becoming adept at giving blowjobs can make you a lot more sexually confident. You can better appreciate the penis and your ability to work it.

Try as many different motions as you can. Rub your hands and/or fingers on his cock and surrounding areas.

Try dirty talk as well so that you're able to show you have him on your mind and that you're not just passively sucking his cock.

If you've given blowjobs before but haven't really enjoyed it, don't let that spoil them for you forever. You might just need a little training.

Study the art of the blowjob by watching videos of other normal couples and practicing on devices like your own dildos. Once it’s time to suck an actual cock, you’ll be a total wizard at it.

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